Being comfortable with who you are involves embracing what you don’t know. In a knowledge based society it can be difficult to admit that you don’t know something. It can be even more difficult to admit that you don’t know much at all. There can be great shame in ignorance. There can be great pride in knowing things. However, when searching for the truth, knowing things that are wrong is worse than not knowing anything at all. If you were to compare what you know with what you don’t know, what you know might fill up a small cup of tea and what you don’t know could fill the entire universe. What you think you know may fill a whole teapot.
When we were children, we were comfortable with who we were because we understood that we didn’t know much. We hadn’t learned to be uncomfortable with ourselves. In school, children can be fascinated to hear their teachers, who seem to know things, explain the world to them. Children go to school to learn. They show up in the morning declaring how little they know and open themselves up to discover the world. They go home at the end of the day knowing a little bit more, but still nothing compared to what they don’t know. This continues throughout our lives. We learn and learn and learn and don’t scratch the surface of what we don’t know.
When we find ourselves uncomfortable with ourselves, we have to unlearn those ways of thinking that make us uncomfortable. We have to remember that we don’t even know who or what we really are. Recognizing that we don’t know what we are can be frightening, because we’re so used to pretending that we know something we don’t. Even if we’re not comfortable being ourselves, it’s all we know. Recognizing that we don’t know all we know can be liberating because we can stop pretending to be what we aren’t. We can just be, discovering the world. The tea is warm.