Enjoy Your Misery

It is impossible to enjoy your misery.  Enjoyment and misery can only jockey for position in your mind. They compete for your attention like a brother and sister pulling a parent in different directions. Like sibling rivals, enjoyment and misery can coexist. When you are feeling miserable, you can still enjoy a warm cup of tea, or a friendly smile. When you are enjoying a stroll in the park, you can still feel an underlying sense of doom and gloom. Actually enjoying a feeling of misery does not work.

The next best thing to enjoying your misery is acknowledging your misery. When you see that you are feeling miserable, the last thing you want to do is demand happiness. You also don’t want to wallow in misery. Wallowing is projecting your misery far into the future, without imagining the possibility of ever enjoying anything. You just need to give your misery its time. Take it in like a cup of tea. Feel the discomfort. Listen to the story. Cry.

When you walk that line between allowing and wallowing in your feelings, you open up some space for peace. In the midst of a deep cry, there is peace. In recognizing that misery is a passing feeling and not a permanent state of affairs, there is peace. Although you cannot enjoy misery, because misery is miserable, within your misery, you can find some peace.   A little peace is always enjoyable.


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