You can’t control your mood like you control a television. If you don’t like the mood your in, you can’t just change the channel and get a better mood. However, if you watch your moods like you watch a television, you will start to understand your moods and they will change. Like you can understand a television schedule by watching TV, by watching your moods, you can learn your mood schedules.
As you pay close attention to your mood schedule, you will see how your mood relates to your activities. If you know that you are happy every Friday afternoon and anxious every Sunday evening, you’ll understand something about the stress of the weekdays. You can see how your moods relate to your meals or exercise. You’ll see how they correspond to drugs or no drugs. You’ll see how they relate to sunshine or rain, day or night. You’ll see how your moods respond to your sleeping patterns and how your sleeping patterns respond to your moods. You’ll notice how your moods change with the people you are with and what they do when you’re alone. You’ll be amazed at the connections you make.
Checking in with your moods throughout the day and night, you may see patches of happiness peeking through pervasive sadness. If you suffer from pervasive sadness, by watching closely, you may learn degrees of sadness. You may notice how anger springs out of sadness. You’ll see guilt jumping out at you from unexpected places. You’ll notice how your moods dissolve if you watch them with curiosity.
When you notice how your moods change under your watch, you start to gain a bit of control. You are no longer at the mercy of moods, wondering why me? Instead, you wonder, why this mood? When you make that shift and start to notice the thoughts feeding each mood, you have come as close as you can to controlling the moods. You may not become instantly happy, but you will also not be mired in any one mood. If you practice watching your moods regularly, you will likely notice that you are happier.