There is no reason to be miserable. Misery creates its own reasons and we just believe them. It is difficult to reason your way out of misery. In order to get out of misery, you have to stop reasoning and pay attention to your reasons for being miserable. When you are prone to misery, there is always a reason. Pain, suffering, sickness, fear, stress, rudeness, rain, sleet, cold, heat, noise, dark, odors, loneliness, work, school, hunger, boredom, anger, need, fatigue, doubt and want can all be reasons to be miserable. These things are not really reasons to be miserable, they are just experiences we have. When you are prone to misery, these experiences may seem to cause your misery.
We find our way through the world by figuring out what we like and don’t like. We try to create conditions that we like, but when we encounter conditions we don’t like we find it reasonable to become miserable. As we find ourselves becoming miserable, we find people to commiserate with us. We whine and gripe and complain and our friends agree that we are completely justified in being miserable, considering what we are going through.
It is important to pay attention to your reasons for being miserable. Pay attention to your complaints. Pay attention to your experiences. When you question each experience and wonder if it is really a good reason to be miserable, you will expose your miserable habits. Once you start to notice all the little misery traps out there, you will learn not to step into them. If you feel the winter wind blow and you think the wind is making you miserable, feel the wind again. You may notice that the wind is reminding you that you are alive. That is a reason to rejoice.