There are two ways to see the world, As it is and as it isn’t. As it is, is the most important. As it isn’t, is a game we play. When we don’t like how the world is, we immediately imagine how we would like it to be. This imagining is our hopes, dreams and fears. Imagining alternate realities is what we do all the time. Even the reality that we regularly experience is an alternate reality to the reality that everybody around us experiences. Although we have imagined our particular reality, there is another reality that we all share. We are all very busy trying to imagine what that reality is and figuring out how to respond to it as it is. We try to respond in a way that will make it more like how we would like it to be.
We have limited control over making things how we want them to be. We have slightly more control over recognizing the world as it is. To see the world as it is, we start from where we are. If we are hungry and we do not like how it feels to be hungry, we eat. If we are hungry and we really don’t like how it feels to be hungry, then we suffer. If we are hungry and we have no pressing concern that we will likely get some food before we starve to death, then we can experience our hunger without any suffering. We accept our hunger as it is.
With any problem, the best way to find a resolution is to accept the situation as it is. You can continue to imagine how you would like the world to be and work toward that goal, but the better you are at recognizing and accepting the world as it is, the easier it will be for you to move it toward how it isn’t. The more you accept the world as it is, the less you’ll suffer. Suffering is desperately wanting the world to be how it isn’t. Happiness comes from engaging with the world as it is.