If you are feeling overwhelmed with life, it is hard to know were to begin to address the problem. If you go to a psychologist or a counsellor, they can help you look at your life and break it down into little pieces that are not so overwhelming. You can learn to dismantle huge, daunting tasks into small manageable pieces and then figure out which things you need to to first. A psychologist can help you look at your life and divide it into those beliefs, behaviors and relationships that are helpful to you and those that are harmful. They can help you learn to tiptoe through your triggers in the minefield of your mind. With this approach, you gain a sense of control and the confidence that you can cope.
If you are feeling overwhelmed with life and you turn to a Zen Master, they will tell you to throw out your mind. Instead of learning to identify which parts of you are good and which are bad, you will break down the barriers that appear to separate you from the ground beneath you and the sky above. With this approach, you give up all hope of control and gain the confidence that you can cope anyway.
Life comes as a whole and in pieces. Sometimes it is necessary to deal with the pieces, but it is helpful to be aware of the whole. When you think about your whole life, with all the ups and downs, heartbreaks and triumphs, you feel a sense of gratitude for the richness of your experience. Your experience today is not just tasks, chores and events, it is your whole life. If that seems overwhelming, focus on the task of breathing. That is also your whole life, but it seems manageable. However you view your life, you are both a part of everything and apart from everything. Whichever way you turn, you can cope.